Snowflake love

elf on the shelf delivering a snowflake

My kids are all unique. All parents think that right? I would run out of fingers if I started counting off all of the ways I think they are special and all of the qualities I hope they love about themselves. For the most part, my kids seem to be going with my "love yourself for who you are" plan but lately I have one teetering on the edge of not following my program anymore. When I tell McKenna to put on her winter coat I see her glance to the side to make sure she's not the only one bundling up and I've followed her eyes to the sparkle of another little girls sequined boots and then tried to talk her out of getting the same pair five minutes later. I know this is only the beginning. I Continue Reading

All the sparkly things

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I love jewelry. LOVE IT. Like on those long car rides when everyone in the car starts asking random questions and someone asks what you would buy if you had a million dollars and starts talking about cars and houses, I'm the one who describes a ring that makes it hard to lift my ring finger. My fellow car-riders are usually surprised because I'm not one for flamboyant anything but I would take a ring that could double as a paperweight any day. So this year, when I had a chance to dream-shop through the pages of the Touchstone Crystal by Swarovski catalog, I had no problem making up a wish list. I didn't realize it until they contacted me and offered to send me jewelry (Jewelry? Yes, Continue Reading

What no one tells you about homeschooling

what no one tells you about homeschooling

I've been homeschooling my three youngest since September. I have always homeschooled McKenna but this is the first year we've been fully immersed in the homeschooling world. I've been surprised at the reality of what homeschooling is really like day in and day out. I knew it would be about lesson plans and A LOT of time with my children but there is so much I've learned that has surprised me. 1. Going from parent to teacher is hard. It didn't take homeschooling to make me realize that my kids listen to others better than they do to me but it has taken a few months for my kids to understand I mean business when it comes to school work. If I let my guard down they're rolling on the Continue Reading

Thoughts on Thanksgiving

Parker at 5 days old, the closest we could get to holding him.

I wish I could say I love holidays as much as I am supposed to. Hanging six stockings instead of seven and filling one less Easter basket is enough to make me want to pull the covers over my head and wake up once the fridge is full of leftovers.  But I have a wonderful husband and four living children who would not dare let me stay in bed while their eyes are open, so I have learned to shape our holidays into what I can handle.  I don't have it in me to manage the craziness of big parties and the hustle and bustle of all the holiday happenings that were our life before. But Thanksgiving I can do.  Actually I think I'm pretty good at it. If there is one thing losing a child has taught Continue Reading

Holiday Clothing Drive 2014

holiday clothing drive

**Updated with current needs, if you can fill any of these please scroll down and fill out the form.** In need of: Girls' sizes 3T 3T 5/6 7/8 10 10/12 15 Boys' sizes 9 mos 4T 6-7 Shirt 10/12, pants 12, shoes 2 12 Men's medium shirt and 32/30 pants   For the last two years I have hosted a Holiday Clothing Drive and it's time to get things started again! Together, we've clothed over 100 kids for the holidays and I hope we can double that number this year. Are you in need of holiday clothes for your children? Holiday clothes can be the last thing we splurge on and so often there is just not enough money to buy everything. If a donation of clothing would Continue Reading

Bragging rights

preemie then and now

I don't have a photographic memory but I can tell you exactly what I was doing on November 1st, from 2008 to probably 2012. My head was tilted to the side, probably leaning on some doorway, either in reflection or in search of a two second nap and I was watching my kids, in a moment when they were calm, and marveling at how far they'd come. I was probably even saying to myself "look how far they've come" then turning to NICU pictures, reminding us all about bilirubin lights and suck-swallow-breath prayers. Still very anchored to their beginning, I knew the moment Prematurity Awareness Month started, I probably woke up at midnight to pin a purple ribbon somewhere and visit the March of Dimes Continue Reading

The truth about writing about the truth

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I just finished the book Not That Kind of Girl: A Young Woman Tells You What She's "Learned" by Lena Dunham which was mildly exciting because there's raging controversy about the book right now and I usually don't hear about controversy until Cliff Notes are available. This time I was actually reading the book that was the center of trending tweets and Facebook posts. I was practically pulling off the slouchy hat and huge glasses look while ordering a double espresso, immersed in the thick of entertainment news analysis with my trendy hat wearing friends. To retain my level of mildly cool and almost-informed, I had to stop myself from raising my hand, shouting "Pick me! Pick me!" whenever Continue Reading

Breaking news from last month

dressing up a new puppy

We lost our little Ruby at the end of the summer. I'm late with the news but she was attacked by dogs and McKenna saw it happen and I can't think about it for long before I hear the screams echoing all over again. Mark and I always joked that she was a therapy pig but it wasn't really a joke. When McKenna couldn't process emotions she went to Ruby, pulling her to her lap or climbing into the space where she slept. She talked to her and pet her until she was calm again. Animals seem to offer McKenna an escape from her anxiety that we cannot. Luckily, we had been talking about getting a dog long before Ruby's accident. We had visited a few pet adoption fairs and researched what kind of Continue Reading

Seven times three

triplets in nicu

Once or twice when Parker and McKenna were babies I came across people who were one of boy/girl twins. I went way past my social comfort zone and delivered my How Close Are You To Your Fraternal Sibling? survey. After losing Hadley, I needed to know that McKenna would still have someone. You see, I had dreamy plans for how close my two girls would be. Giving my daughter a sister her own age felt like winning the lottery. And then our prize was taken away. I wanted these boy/girl sets to tell me they shared a room for years on end, went to the same college and could complete each other's sentences. I was new at having more than one child, my diaper bag packed with grandiose dreams of Continue Reading

How to survive

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When we found out we were expecting triplets I avoided the horror stories. I clicked away from tales of early labor, grim statistics and the unthinkable... losing a baby. I couldn't bear to think anything could happen to my unborn children. Truthfully, I wondered how women who suffered the loss of a child continued on. I could not imagine life after loss, burying a child and having to move forward. It was all too heart-wrenching to think about, so I never did. Then came the day it was me, when my husband and I found ourselves debating over a casket or an urn, trying to decide if we should hold a funeral or wait and organize a memorial when our heads were more clear. The Continue Reading